Can a daughter-in-law and a mother-in-law figure out a way to blog about their relationship with one another? Can they be vulnerable enough so that what they say will help others? Can they explore the prickly parts without hurt feelings and sore toes?

IMG_4824These are the questions my lovely daughter-in-law and I asked one another as we brainstormed this idea. We’ve got some ideas we want to discuss and we’re open to your suggestions and feedback. But before we wade into uncharted waters,  I’d like you to meet the younger half of the “Girls Gone Griffith” team . . .

Hi! I’m Camilla, one of Laurel’s two daughters in law. I married her middle son, Luke, a little less than a year ago. They let me become a Griffith even though I graduated from Auburn. Luke and I began dating in Atlanta while I was working on my master’s degree in marriage and family therapy. We now live in Charlotte, NC with our two cats.  

Laurel and I have decided that good relationships take work and communication and writing a blog together. Just kidding about that last part. Establishing a friendship can be painful and hard but the outcome is so worth it. In just one year we’ve both learned a lot about one another. We’ve shared lasagna and Milky Way bar cake. We’ve shared laughter and tears. We’ve called each other for advice, counsel and discussions on major topics more times than I can count.

I’ve told Laurel that she hurt my feelings and I’ve apologized for hurting hers.This is only my first year as a daughter-in-law and I have a lot to learn, but I’m excited we’re walking the road together.

I hope you come join our journey.

Camilla and I agree that it’s not unusual for in-laws to have strained relationships. Both generations complain to their friends. It sounds something like this:

“My daughter-in-law doesn’t include me in any of their plans. I call and she never responds. Now my son is ignoring my texts, too.”

“Come on. No one actually LIKES her mother in law. They’re critical and get in your business and never think you are good enough for their baby boy.”

Good women, who are able to sustain positive relationships with all kinds of other people, get caught in cycles of in-law resentment.  Some make light of the problems with jokes or sly comments to their friends and others avoid interaction altogether.

Isn’t it interesting that one of the most positive human relationships described in Scripture is the story of Ruth and Naomi? Even troubled times, grief, and cultural differences didn’t drive the women apart. Perhaps God wants us to realize something valuable is gained when mothers and daughters-in-law make the commitment and do the work required to become genuine friends.

Our idea is to explore facets of this significant relationship. Sometimes Camilla will blog; others times I’ll do the “talking.” We won’t inundate you with these “in-law” posts. They’ll be sprinkled in the mix of what I usually share. Hopefully you’ll find some encouragement from our observations and experiences. And if you’ve got some wisdom of your own to offer, we’d love to hear it, so feel free to comment away!

 

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